“Femininity should never be measured by your physical attributes.”
My name is Kasey, I identify as non-binary, my pronouns are she/they.
It’s been a long beautiful journey of internal growth, shedding skin and evolving into my most authentic self.
I can confidently say that I have arrived at a place in my life where I’ve learned what it means to truly live for myself, mind, body and soul.
To not conform to society’s standards or definitions of gender & sexuality, to no longer feel the need to be an object of desirability for anyone but myself.
To just unapologetically live in my truth.
I am excited to share with you all that I have made the decision to undergo top surgery.
I’m aware for those of you that have only seen me through the lens of social media, it may come as a bit of a surprise.
I’ve never been one to share too much of my personal life on these platforms because protecting my peace is always my top priority.
I’ve gone back and forth on how much I want to share or explain about this new personal chapter in my life.
In the end it came down to me realizing that sharing some of my journey could possibly help other folks feel more seen or inspired to live in their truth.
And if I can have a positive influence on anyone’s life by sharing my story, that would honestly fill my heart with so much joy.
I want to answer two common questions that I’m sure I’ll be asked a lot.
1. Are you transitioning?
No, I personally will not be transitioning or going on T.
2. Why did you decide to have top surgery?
As much as I am very connected to my femininity having breasts from a young age was never something I wanted, it never felt aligned with who I am and how I felt inside.
But as I got older I realized how quickly they became such a huge object of desirability.
Of course, as we all know society has been programmed to over-sexualize breasts in every way possible.
So being young and impressionable, also growing up in the 90s where identifying as non-binary or anything that didn’t fall under “he/him or she/her” was not accepted or even really heard of in most places.
So I simply decided to embrace having them, while always secretly fantasizing about how liberating it would feel to take my shirt off as casually as cis men do and to not be sexually objectified for it.
Or made to feel like I’m being inappropriate/seeking attention.
To simply feel free in my body anywhere I am and to no longer worry about the constant need to hide or cover up in fear of who may catch a glance.
I don’t want to hide anymore.
The more I’ve continued to navigate through life I started to realize the only reason why I embraced having them for this long was to feel seen and accepted by society, essentially it was to serve everyone else but myself.
I’m continuously putting in the work to unlearn so many toxic ways of thinking that society has taught us while also working through my own people-pleasing trauma responses.
I am grateful to see that the world around me has slowly started to evolve with acknowledging and making space for non-binary folks.
Seeing more and more people embrace who they truly are unapologetically, its all contributed to my journey and awakening, it’s given me the courage to no longer fear being misunderstood more than I already have been in life.
Because when you choose to live for you and no one else you unlock the most fearless, enlightened version of yourself and that no longer gives anyone the ability to have power over you or your choices.
I love that I have such a beautiful mix of masculine and feminine energy that endlessly flows through me and comes out in a magnitude of ways.
I do want to remind people that having top surgery does not in any way subtract from my femininity.
And I think we need to unlearn this idea of attaching femininity and masculinity to how someone presents themselves physically on the outside.
Femininity should never be measured by your physical attributes.
It should be felt through self-expression and the energy in which you exude.
So with all that being said, I really hope you all can embrace me with love, support and acceptance.
I’m so excited to re-introduce myself to the world as my most authentic self.
Unfortunately due to how physically demanding my current full-time job was, I did have to take a significant amount of unpaid time off to properly heal and recover from my top surgery.
Any donations to my GoFundMe recovery would truly mean the world to me.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read/hear my story I appreciate you all.
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FINDING KASEY
IG: @king.charming9
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GoFundMe: Kasey’s Top Surgery Recovery Fund
