The world doesn’t need another “20 Sexy Ways to Please Your Man in Bed”.
What we need is something that takes us all in, breaks our spirit, fixes it back together and lets us know how to organize a threesome in one go.
KISSED Magazine and Séparée founders Ute and Janina have paved the way for us to enjoy our sexuality, without censoring our desires, obeying taboos, and vilifying erotica.
We sat together and talked about what it takes to shift the paradigm.
Séparée has been around since 2014 for “the confident women out there”. But what is Séparée explained in a few words?
Séparée is a German-language magazine focused on female lust, sensuality and passion.
Our original target group was women, but we soon learned that many men and people of all genders and sexual orientations also responded positively to our approach.
So, we started catering to the needs of more diverse sexual beings.
Now KISSED Magazine was born in order to step into the international light.
But the media is flushed with sex – what makes KISSED Magazine unique? Why should we read KISSED?
Actually, there is no magazine like ours anywhere on the entire globe.
Usually, magazines serve up the standard fare of fashion, beauty advice, and diet recipes, spiced up with the ever self-blaming tips on the “Ten Things to Make Him Happy in Bed” or self-improvement advice on how to enjoy a tighter love-life after pregnancy.
But what we really need is to talk and to learn about sex, in a world that’s oversexed but underf**ked, a world where men know little about what women really want because women are too often ashamed to say it out loud.
KISSED Magazine creates a world where humans of all ages and genders can embrace their sexuality with positivity and confidence.
We want to encourage our readers to explore their desires, to feel comfortable and confident in their own body and communicate their sensual needs without self-censoring themselves.
We want people to realize and utilize the pure, creative power that grows from uninhibited pleasure.
Plus, you can not only read the magazine but also enjoy our notably sensual photography: male nudes and “regular” women beyond size 10, or above the age of 30.
How has the perception of female sexuality changed in recent years?
It is now more widely understood and accepted that female lust is as strong as male sex drive, if not often stronger.
Women’s sex drive often grows with age, while male lust declines.
A lot of women have gone out of their way and created the necessary awareness themselves.
Over time, we have met many courageous, smart, witty women.
They have taken this path by writing and publishing erotica for women, opening erotic boutiques, designing beautiful love-toys, and making female-friendly porn.
On one hand, social media censors everything about sex, on the other hand, they propagate a “new, self-confident femininity”. What’s your take on that?
It’s a disaster.
It’s not social media that propagates the new female empowerment, it is brave individual women who propagate it, despite social media censorship.
Facebook banned us so many times, often not sure why exactly. We are not even allowed to use Facebook ads linked to our online store.
It’s absolutely ridiculous how you are allowed to show war but not love-making, guns but not a female nipple.
It’s 2021. Is it still appropriate to talk about male and female sexuality, or is it slowly becoming blurred?
Some desires and needs are human, rather than female or male.
That’s true, but there will always be female and male genitals and anatomy, which is not likely to change any soon.
And there will always be different hormones influencing our bodies and brains.
Strictly speaking, there isn’t just one female (or male) sexuality.
It changes with age and different circumstances.
Even during the female cycle, desires and lust can change constantly.
We want the poet during menstruation and the rocker while we ovulate.
These differences will always prevail.
The different upbringing of girls and boys, our society that is built around binary gender and lots of other things need to be taken into consideration…
What do self-confident women want in bed?
They want to be seen and sensed and truly interacted with.
Most people, when having sex, are basically having sex with themselves.
They unwind their program once learned in younger years and stick with it all their life.
Real sex with another person requires the ability to ask, to listen, to try out. It requires clear communication.
Why are so many projects revolving around sex born in Berlin? What makes the city special?
Berlin has always been a hedonistic city.
Its geographical position in central Europe made it the perfect melting pot for people from all over the continent.
While Germany was divided between East and West in the last century, both parts of Berlin played crucial roles in their countries.
Residents of Westberlin were exempt from attending military service, so lots of young freedom-loving men flocked to the city.
And also in East Germany Berlin was the place to be if you were an artist, writer, musician, and politically maybe not quite compliant.
It was where you could have a glimpse of the outside world you could not travel to.
East Germans also brought their natural feel for their bodies, bathing in the nude and being very uncomplicated about sexuality.
Last but not least: A freedom-loving female chancellor, born and bred in East Germany has governed Germany for 16 years!
Berlin had a party-loving, openly homosexual mayor for a long time.
What could be a more perfect breeding spot for a culture of sexual freedom?!
Where can I read KISSED Magazine?
You can buy the digital magazine in our online store – just click *HERE*
Or you can read it on the magazine platform www.readly.com
How can I be a part of KISSED Magazine?
If readers are inspired to share their own thoughts and experiences on sexuality, whether as a writer, artist, coach, scientist, or a passionate individual – we love to hear from them!
Contribute and send an email to contact@kissedmag.com
