Lola Jean is a sexpert, writer, activist, and currently the record-holder for squirting worldwide. In this article, read her demystify the act of squirting and promote sex-positivity at the same time!
The stock in squirting is rising. After a decade of steady growth, the past ten years have seen squirting enter the mainstream. One of the highest recorded spikes in demand, the market is insatiable when it comes to knowledge and representation on squirting. Consistently at the top of most searched terms on porn sights, is the demand for squirting due the exotic nature of this act or is there insufficient information around the topic itself?
Squirting is now a household name. It’s a brand. Little girls grow up dreaming to be a part of the squirt squad. Though, squirting is not without its controversy. Conspiracy theories continue to swirl around the contents of said squirt.
Is it manufactured? Is it plausible? Does it have a place in mainstream media? (The UK begs to differ—but for now it’s okay.) We are a world divided. You’re either on Team Squirt or you’re not.
In all seriousness, people care way too much about this simple expulsion of fluid from the vulva/vagina than is necessary.
As the World Record Holder in volume squirting, I talk about squirting a lot.
I’ve been having the same conversation for years in a continuously loop as if I’m in the porn spinoff of The Twilight Zone. If you wan’t to ask the questions I’m tired of hearing, direct yourself to my classes and lectures on squirting. I am not going to address your “is it pee” questions. I am not going to address the “can everyone with a vulva do it” questions. I am not going to address the “how do I get my partner to do it.” This conversation has been had, which leads me to believe you won’t be satisfied until you get the answer you crave Then there’s the fact that I give zero fucks about defending my body’s experience against those who wish to wage their opinion unsupported by sufficient evidence.
Care Less About Squirting
Your world is not THE world. If you experience or witness people squirting, this does not make you an authority on squirting but rather a person lucky enough to behold the white whale of splash town.
I don’t care if you love it or hate it as the recipient or the giver.
I’m not asking for a bigger squirt fan club. Your opinion is your opinion and I have no intention to change it. This time I’m after something different. I want you to care less about squirting.
A Society Obsessed: Fetishization or Stigmitization
Why this societal obsession? Why the controversy around a fairly simple bodily reaction and behavior? Is it because it has absolutely nothing to do with people with penises? It is because no one could possibly fathom a genital ejaculating and this not correlating directly to an orgasm?
FACT: We have been studying human sexuality for a laughably short amount of time. Even scholars don’t know everything.
FACT: For many sexual related items, studies and controls can be incredibly difficult to regulate and obtain a large enough sample for a study to be valid AND replicated.
FACT: All bodies and how they react is different. Pleasure is a spectrum.
Squirting cannot be explained in simple terms. Shockingly, squirting has more to do with the person doing the squirting than that of the person assisting with it. In fact, you don’t even need another person nor penetration for this act to occur. If it feels like you’ve been fed fake news about squirting having heard this information, it’s because it should.
Squirting Merit Badges
Squirting is often seen as a sexual achievement rather than a bodily fluid. I have constant emails from those desperate to squirt because their partner is hellbent on earning this merit badge for their sex troop. People are confused that the “come hither” everyone can’t seem to shut up about doesn’t feel good for them. Thought the worst is those made to believe there must be something wrong with their body because “they’ve made everyone else squirt.”
Years ago, I set the world record in volume squirting without penetrating myself or having an orgasm. The world record (which disproved science, by the way) was a statement showcasing that we know less about squirting and how vulvas behave than we think we do. We like to tie nice bows on everything instead of admitting that bodies are more complicated than we think and there is no “normal” response, just a common one. I did not feel my experience was included or portrayed in the squirting narratives that were out there, so I created my own —and this resonated with so many people who felt left out, abnormal or broken. Talk about sex-negative, we should be made to feel empowered, not less than within radical sex education.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news: but the feeling of squirting—while fun—isn’t as magical as you’re envisioning. In fact, squirting is overrated. I can’t have sex in certain locations. Sex blankets are strategically placed in my home and my lovers home as if it were part of the interior design. I destroy towels. Setting down a puppy pad is part of my sexual routine. I’ve become upset after wanting to feel pleasure but frustrated at the prospect of squirting. Not to mention weeding out those who choose to shame my body as well as those who go out of their way to tell me how much they love squirt. I wish it weren’t as big of a deal. I wish squirting wasn’t a factor in choosing who to date and whom to have sex with.
The most interesting thing about societies response to squirting is the downright anger. It’s fetishization or stigmatization. There is lest a place for celebration or indifference. Either folx want to debate the contents and quality of a bodily fluid or they want to proclaim their love or skill in regards to the fluid. Ah yes, the treasured group who make squirting all about them.
All Bodies are Capable of Squirting
Squirting is a thing a body does. It’s a thing my body does. It’s a thing I sometimes wish my body wouldn’t do.
A bodily fluid that one with a vulva can emit. Not to be left out of the fun, penises can squirt too—which is not the same as seminal fluid.
As a fluid a body is capable of producing, each person may have a different relationship with squirting. While some may hate it, others find it enjoyable, whereas some folx find squirting doesn’t add or take away from the overall sexual experience.
It’s interesting that so many have opinions on what my body’s behavior, wether they believe it is valid and wether they enjoy it.
We are all entitled to our opinions, but they are just that: opinions. Sex positivity celebrates sex and sexuality in all its shapes, shades and formats—even the lack thereof. Sex positivity celebrates monogamy and being vanilla all the same as polyamory, fetishists and sluts. All forms are valid.
You don’t have to like squirting.
You don’t have to like me.
But you do have to stop questions, shaming and otherwise projecting your views onto someone else’s body—and what comes out of it.
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