Does a dominatrix have sex with her clients?
Does a dominatrix hate men?
In a candid interview, dominatrix Adreena Angela provides astounding insight into her fascinating, surprising, and often massively misunderstood world.
Read the full Interview with dominatrix Adreena Angela if you want to find out what the life of a dominatrix really looks like.
Who is dominatrix Adreena Angela and how did you get your start in BDSM?
My journey started early.
I was about fifteen when I started to discover kink.
I’d spend my spare time in Soho sex shops reading magazines such as Skin Two and Marquis and was immediately curious.
At sixteen I bought my first latex dress (a very basic number from Camden!) and attended a fetish club at seventeen.
I was instantly hooked, going at every possible occasion whilst I was still at school.
By 18 I was working at Torture Garden, modeling and performing and the kink community became my main social group.
Most of my best friends who I’ve known for ten years+ I met in fetish clubs.
I continued to work, socialise and engage in kinky sex alongside my vanilla life till I was in my mid-twenties.
I was working as a chef at the time and supplemented my income by doing foot worship sessions.
It was at this point I really discovered my love for domination, and it escalated fast from there.
Within two years I was working full time as a dominatrix and had opened my dungeon, Inanna.
When/How did you decide that you wanted to pursue BDSM as a career? Was there a specific point or event in your life?
I can’t say it was quite a conscious decision like that, as described above.
I have been involved in BDSM since I was so young and so integrated into the scene that it was always an aspect of what I did.
So, I never chose a career in BDSM per se, I just slowly absorbed myself deeper into it.
I guess the turning point was when I had to decide to continue as a chef or do sex work full time, and sex work one out. I haven’t looked back.
What do you offer? What’s your specialty as Dominatrix Adreena Angela?
I offer most things!
Just like my clients, I have my own limits, such as racial play and hard sports but I’m generally pretty open.
My specialty is kink positive, sensual, and erotic domination – lots of psychological play, tease and denial, tactile play.
I have quite a playful, soft approach and tend to appeal to those who want to be supported in their exploration rather than degraded.
What does a regular session with you look like?
Lead us through an appointment with Dominatrix Adreena Angela.
There is no such thing as a regular session!
Every submissive and their requirements are different, as is the way we interact.
I tend not to plan my sessions, I prefer to know what they like and dislike and then wait for them to enter before I make any choices – so I can base our play on their personalities and how we interact.
What happens behind the doors at Inanna stays behind the doors of Inanna – if you want to know what it feels like and how it plays out, you’ll have to come visit me.
It’ll start with a conversation until I feel they’re relaxed enough, and usually end with an orgasm, and the denial of…
What’s the most common request from your clients?
I, like most dommes, have my own specialities and preferred activities, which you become known for, so people tend to come to you for those.
These days it’s mostly tie and tease, sensory deprivation, sensual play and pegging.
Lots and lots of pegging.
I’m very glad that’s my most common request as I love anal play and could do it all day!
What are some of the biggest misconceptions about your work?
Oh man. That we hate men.
I wouldn’t dedicate my life to giving them pleasure if I did!
I love men and I love enabling their desires.
Or that we beat up men all day.
There is SO much more to domination than mindlessly kicking a man in the balls!
That we are tax dodgers… Not all sex work is on the side, cash in hand jobs.
With a business of my size, I have an accountant, financial advisor, business accounts, eye watering tax bills…
It’s a legitimate career.
It’s so important when you work in such a heavily scrutinised industry to be absolutely by the book.
I think that ties in to the misconception that it isn’t real work.
My working day doesn’t begin when the client arrives and end when they leave – it involves vast amounts of accounting, studio maintenance, admin, emails, interviews, promotion…
It’s a real job.
What do you love most about your profession?
Meeting amazing, interesting people who I would otherwise not cross paths with in life, and to be able to make people happy and to help them not only accept but celebrate their sexuality.
I also do love all the perks, of course- the restaurants, 5* suites, travel and gifts.
What woman wouldn’t? I’m grateful for it all though.
I think people see those and think we have such a glamorous, easy life but they can be hard one.
Dealing with the emotional needs of others all day is very draining and men on the internet can be awful sometimes, it’s a struggle.
But nonetheless, I pinch myself daily and remind myself how lucky I am.
I like to think back to when I was an overworked, underweight chef on a minimum wage, zero hours contract and remind myself how far I’ve come and how fortunate I am for the lifestyle I lead.
Do you ever feel persecuted or stigmatized for what you do?
Of course. I am yet to meet a sex worker who isn’t marginalized in some way.
I’m lucky that on an interpersonal level I’m treated with respect and that most people who aren’t part of the BDSM community treat me with curious interest.
Most people in London at least are very friendly about it and open to learning.
The stigmatisation is from banks, social media platforms, the government.
It’s more systemic and deeply rooted than someone on the street calling you a slut.
It’s demoralising to always be trying to stay under the radar or fighting to have your voice heard.
Not being able to enter the States without fear of being retained, bullied, banned for life…
That’s scary and frustrating.
What do you wish people knew about BDSM?
That it can be a perfectly healthy part of your life.
It shouldn’t have to be something you hide or feel shame over (Unless that’s part of the eroticism!).
Having a kink doesn’t mean you come from a broken home or you have something wrong with you.
It’s perfectly healthy to explore every aspect of your sexuality as long as you do it in a way that’s considered, consensual and isn’t detrimental to the well being of yourself or your play partners.
Do you have any tips for BDSM beginners?
Don’t try to make sense or explain your sexuality, you’ll just drive yourself mad.
There isn’t always a reason or a cause for what makes you tick.
Just try to have fun with it.
On the 21th of January 2022 is international fetish day. How do you celebrate your fetishes?
I’m lucky! I get to celebrate kink every day of the year.
Every time I welcome someone into my studio that I created through my love of kink, I get to celebrate kink, pleasure and sexuality.
But I do also love that I own my own space, so whenever the mood takes me I can pop in there with a bottle of champagne and a willing victim and have a kinky date night.
That’s such a perk!
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